15 Secular Songs to Share With Your Kids

Not long ago, I suggested that nonreligious parents share religious music with their kids. I put together a Christian playlist and, later, a Hanukkah playlist. I also recommended some Cat Stevens songs about Islam, including one I love called "Ramadan Moon."  Some readers voiced concern about the ways in which religious songs have been used to indoctrinate children. They argued that the potential downsides to sharing such music outweighed the benefits. But I still think that, as long as we do it right, these musical journeys can be excellent ways to develop religious literacy, learn tolerance for other cultures, and give nonreligious children a way  — should the need arise — to connect with religious children without engaging in all the belief stuff.

But how exactly do we do it right? Well, the same way we approach any other religious knowledge.

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First, we act as chaperones. We don't just play religious music. We explain what the songs are about, define unknown terms and concepts, and talk about why each song may hold meaning to the religions whence they came.

And, second, we balance out the religious with the secular. In addition to sharing other people's religious songs, we share our own secular songs — and then talk about where these songs came from and why they hold so much meaning to us.

Now, you might be thinking: What the hell is a "secular song?" Is it anti-God music, or just 95 percent of rock-n-roll?

The secular songs I'm talking about are songs that inspire or comfort us; that bring us closer to humanity; that touch on the purpose, meaning and joys of life — without religion.

We all have our favorite secular songs — and I spent a long time paring mine down — but here are the ones I've chosen for my daughter's Secular Playlist. I hope you enjoy them as much as I do — and please don't forget to weigh in with your own secular favorites in the comments!

[Full disclosure: I had to edit this list after I published it because I realized some of the songs actually had religious connotations. This was harder than I thought!]

1. What a Wonderful World by Louis Armstrong (Thanks, Dad!)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E2VCwBzGdPM

 

2. Ain't it Enough by Old Crow Medicine Show (Thanks, Jenny!)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DhzEHtADP-Y

 

3. Imagine by John Lennon

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yRhq-yO1KN8

 

4.  Life's a Happy Song, written by Bret McKenzie

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aDnTo2S2BrA

 

5. In My Life by The Beatles

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zI0Q8ytD44Y

 

6. Don't Worry, Be Happy by Bobby McFarin

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d-diB65scQU

 

7. White Wine in the Sun by Tim Minchin (Thanks, Derek!)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Le1sDyai-JM

 

8. Rainbow Connection by Kermit the Frog

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jSFLZ-MzIhM

 

9. My Favorite Things by Julie Andrews

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E3aBB-J9vhg

 

10. Lean on Me by Bill Withers

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zU97n-HuAJA

 

11. That's Life by Frank Sinatra

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KIiUqfxFttM

 

12: Rocky Mountain High by John Denver

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OwARpaKHx_w

 

13. I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBR2G-iI3-I

 

14. Think for Yourself by the Beatles

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXGSBgr8sbg

 

15. You Are my Sunshine by virtually everyone on the planet (but my favs is Willie Nelson's version)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jDNDELFF1ok

 

You Don't Have to Be Religious to Sing about God

God Songs

A couple of weeks ago, as you may recall, my daughter cut me off midway through a sentence to inform me that we wouldn't be talking about religion anymore. Her justification: "Religion is boring." The statement stopped me in my tracks, mostly because I'd been under the impression she enjoyed our little talks. Since then, I've realized that what we had there was a failure to communicate.

As it turns out, Maxine doesn't find religion boring in the least. She's still as fascinated with God and heaven and faith as she was nearly two years ago, when her little preschool boyfriend told her that "God made us." The problem is the word religion. To children — and, hell, to a lot of us — religion connotes something cumbersome and complicated. And, for many of us, complicated = tedious and tedious = boring. It's a little like the word math. There's nothing boring about counting money (especially when it's your own), but use the word math, and we feel overwhelmed.

So here's my advice, when it comes to religious literacy in young children, try this:

1. Lay off the big, esoteric terms, like religion, in favor of concrete ones, like God.

2. Stow away the serious conversations and stick to what's fun: creative play, books, movies, games, art, music. (You'll notice "talking" didn't make the list.)

3. Put the religious terms out there, and let your kids take it from there.

I realize there's a fine line to walk on that last one. We all know it's better and more effective to let our children do the talking and questions-asking, but our children will never talk or ask questions if we don't give them something to talk or ask about. Injecting the idea of religious faith into their periphery is vital if we're going to expect them to give any thought to these things at all.

My suggestion of the week:

Make a mix CD, chock full of songs with a religious bent. They could be songs you heard as children, or gospel songs, hymns, traditional chants, epic songs, or just faith-oriented songs: jazz, country, pop, rock — you name it. The only requirement is that religion is more than just mentioned in the background. Maybe you make it a mix of songs from every religion. Maybe make one CD per religion.

I made my own CD last week. And, I have to say, the results were about 100 times better than expected.

I chose to do Christian music first, since that's still the dominant religion in my area. Because my background is Christianity, the experience was a strange and liberating. There are so many wonderful songs I sung as a kid that will forever be burned into my memory — starting with "The B-I-B-L-E" all the way up to "Swing Low, Sweet Chariot." But all were songs I assumed my daughter would never be able to enjoy for herself. They were songs I never thought I'd revisit for myself.

I'm really glad  I was wrong.

So here's how did it: I started out with a master list of the songs I thought would be fun to hear — most I'd heard as a child, but some just sounded interesting — like "Who Built the Ark?" and "Who Did Swallow Jonah?"  Then I logged into the iTunes Store and listened to snippets of various artists' recordings of the songs I wanted. The selections were insane. Most famous religious and Gospel songs have been recorded time and again by amazing singers from a wide cross-section of genres.

The neat thing about this exercise, too, was that I was able to choose music that matched my — and my daughter's — quirks and styles. I am a huge fan of bluegrass and old-time country, for example, and Maxine, loathes hearing children sing (unless she knows the children personally). By doing our own playlist, I was able to accommodate us both. What resulted was, I believe, a fun and quite beautiful mix of country, R&B, Gospel, ukulele, folk, indie and, of course, rock-and-roll. Here it is:

This Little Light of Mine / Raffi What a Friend We Have In Jesus / Bart Millard Who Built the Ark? / Mad Tea Party Jesus Loves Me / The Bluegrass Gospel Group I'm In the Lord's Army / Cassandra Laudiaann Provencal Father Abraham / Spring Harvest Jesus Loves the Little Children / Frank McConnell B-I-B-L-E / Wee Worship Who Did Swallow Jonah? / Aardvark Kids Music He's Got the Whole World In His Hands / Etta James Onward Christian Soldier / The New Tragedies Swing Low, Sweet Chariot / Eric Clapton I’ve Got Peace Like A River / Harpeth Gospel Quartet All Through the Night / Peter, Paul & Mary Go Tell It On the Mountain/ Dolly Parton Leaning On the Everlasting Arm / Iris DeMent Hallelujah / Leonard Cohen Old Time Religion / Loretta Lynn Swing Low, Sweet Chariot / She & Him

Maxine is crazy for "Father Abraham" (which encourages you move body parts with the music; I've always thought of it as the Christian Hokey-Pokey) and "I'm in the Lord's Army" which almost demands that you march along with the beat. And she's so into the Gospel songs that I'm thinking about taking her to a Gospel brunch at our "local" House of Blues before too long. My personal favorites are: Etta James' "He's Got the Whole World In His Hands, " "What a Friend in Jesus," by Bart Millard, and "Hallelujah" by Leonard Cohen. Oh, and I could listen to Loretta Lynn pronounce the word "religion" (reelijin') all day in her rousing version of "Old Time Religion."

I was so impressed, too, to hear that the Satan reference had been removed entirely from Raffi's recording of "This Little Light of Mine" — another of our favorites. The lyric used to be sung, "Don't let Satan [blow] it out, I'm gonna let it shine." Raffi's version (and maybe most these days?) goes: "Don't let anyone [blow] it out..."

It's also been great to inject pieces of religious information by way of "explanation."

During "Lord's Army," for example, I told her that "Lord" usually means God but it also can mean Jesus. And during "B-I-B-L-E," she asked if the Bible was the singers' favorite book. I said yes and that it's often called "The Good Book." She seemed genuinely pleased to hear this.

Religion, boring? Nah. Just depends on who's singin'.