Three years ago this week, I sat down with Ty and Linda to talk about the possibility of writing a book together. Having taken their parenting seminar years earlier, I was convinced that their teachings — based on science and research, incredibly accessible and practical, and driven by the knowledge that a child’s self-esteem and a strong parent-child bond must be protected at all costs — had the potential to change the way we raise our kids. Nothing they taught was “new,” per se. I mean, they brought their own perspective and flair, but the underlying principles were well-vetted through decades of research and brain science.
Instead, what they brought to their classes — and what convinced me to change my own paradigm — were countless actionable steps and invaluable tools to replace the controlling and permissive tactics most parents rely on these days (punishments, rewards, threats, bribery, etc.). By the end of the class, my husband and I weren’t just better parents; we were better people.
I knew I wanted to write a parenting guide for my friends and family and neighbors (and complete strangers) who were struggling in the same ways that I had been. But, as much as I had learned and put to use in my home, I wasn’t the expert. So I called up Ty and Linda.
Let’s just say I didn’t have to twist their arms. Writing a book was something they’d been preparing to do for more than a decade; they just not found the right collaborator, someone who truly understood the material and could translate their verbal teachings into a proper book.
You might say it was a win-win. (Which is only funny if you’ve read the book, so you’ll have to go read it if you want to get that joke.)
Anyway, ParentShift hits shelves today. You can find it at Barnes & Noble and in indie bookstores throughout the country. If you don’t see it, ask the store to order it. And if you’d rather stay home (we so get you), well, there’s always Amazon.
We’ve had some really lovely endorsements, which I’ll list below, starting with a blurb from Adele Faber, a legend of the parenting world. (That one had us breaking out the good whiskey.) For more information, or to get a fuller picture of what you’ll find in the book, check out the Q&A in our media kit.
“ParentShift is aptly named. It is an encyclopedic exploration of the most effective methods for giving children the courage to realize their full potential."
— ADELE FABER, co-author of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk
“Linda and Ty Hatfield’s heart-centered approach, presented in this book with Wendy Thomas Russell, helps parents develop the skills to move beyond punishment and rewards, sidestep power struggles, and strengthen the parent-child relationship . . . ParentShift works because it changes the way you SEE your child. It should be on every family’s bookshelf.”
—LAURA MARKHAM, author of Happy Parent, Peaceful Kids
“A must-read for parents, caregivers and grandparents. The authors give practical, down- to-earth options for the everyday issues, conflicts, and roadblocks that we all experience, while helping our children become responsible, resilient, resourceful, compassionate human beings who know how to think—not just what to think.”
—BARBARA COLOROSO, author of Kids Are Worth It!
“ParentShift exposes the fake news of the necessity to discipline and control children, and replaces it with the true news that children are harmed by domination and thrive on connection, unconditional love, and respect. While quoting the work of many reputable authors and researchers of the last fifty years, the authors provide parents an incredibly powerful and clear system to shift their way of being from gut reactors to intelligent responders and from getting compliance in the moment to ensuring the child unfolds into a highly self-esteemed, self-reliant, loving, and thriving person.”
—NAOMI ALDORT, author of Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves
“If you want a deeply connected, heart-centered relationship with your child, you owe it to yourself to learn from these masters. ParentShift is one of the most comprehensive and time-tested parenting books around. If you have only one parenting book in your library, this should be the one.”
—VICKIE FALCONE, author of Buddha Never Raised Kids & Jesus Didn’t Drive Carpool
“The best thing about ParentShift is the enduring focus on how it’s actually the adults behavior, rather than the child’s, that is most predictive of healthy development. We must grow ourselves before we grow our children. Brilliant!”
—VANESSA LAPOINTE, author of Discipline Without Damage
“I’m delighted to endorse a book so thoroughly devoted to a win-win approach to parenting, one that takes the needs of both parents and children into consideration. You’llfindloadsoftips,charts,examples,andbriefassignmentsalongwitheasy-to-read text written with empathy and good humor. Here are some of the best tools available to help you build the best possible, mutually respectful, and loving, life-long relationships with your kids.”
—JANE BLUESTEIN, author of The Parent’s Little Book of Lists
“Parenting without punishment, threats, rewards, or bribery seemed like a fantasy until Wendy Thomas Russell enrolled in Ty and Linda Hatfield’s Parenting from the Heart course, which draws from Adlerian psychology and its offshoots. In ParentShift—an upbeat, modern guide with classic roots—the coauthors give parents a loving alter- native . . . ParentShift presents a thorough set of adaptable ideas. Here, thoughtful parenting comes down to being willing to grow and change right alongside children.”